I wish this story was that of fiction but unfortunately its not.
My name is Michael Adams and after a brave heroic battle with breast cancer on 1st march 2013 my wife Helen sadly passed away leaving behind a loving, dedicated husband and two gorgeous children. Not to mention all the countless family and friends that all held Helen so dear in their hearts.
Helen and I met in April 2006 and once we got together there was no stopping us. We moved in together in Oct 2006 and engaged in the Dec. We married in July 2007 and our first baby was born a year later.
Our perfect Wedding day
Helen who was then healthy and a perfectly proud mummy to our daughter Olivia
Then in 2009 just a few days after our daughters 1st birthday and 3 months pregnant with our second child our lives were to change forever when Helen was diagnosed with Breast cancer. Initially there were doubts about the pregnancy but after some proactive work liaising with the right professionals Helen underwent surgery and 4 bouts of Chemo before delivering our beautiful baby boy Marley. Helen then went on to have 4 further much stronger Chemo treatments plus Herceptin and radiotherapy.
This is Helen and her new head of hair with Marley when he was about 1.5 years old
18 months went by while we started to rebuild our lives and bring up our two small children. We thought we has seen the last of cancer but we knew there was always that possibility. Then at the end of 2011 the cancer had returned, she had had a small re-occurrence which was dealt with by surgery. Oncologists and surgeons didn’t seem overly concerned by it as a small re-occurrence like this can be common.
In April 2012 Helen again had a biopsy which was found to be cancerous. Deciding to get to the bottom of these occurrences and with the will to get the best treatment possible we made a few trips to London to see one of the UK’s leading breast cancer specialists. After a number of scans the worst was to come in that the cancer had spread to the Lungs, Bones, Brain and Liver. This then sparked off the biggest battle of all.
Helen was treated with numerous types of Chemotherapy treatments in an attempt to shrink the cancer plus countless other treatments to help manage the side effects. Although initially the cancers did shrink and stabilise it became too aggressive and sadly that horrible disease took her away from us. Helen had been a tower of strength throughout everything and was an amazingly positive person even through the most difficult of times.
This is my favourite picture of Helen with our two beautiful children. Helen had been on some very gruelling chemotherapy for about 8 months when this was taken and still looked gorgeous. She didn’t have much energy to do too much but she always had time to give the kids her smile and a cuddle. That’s all they needed.
I too remained positive and strong for her and our family but no matter how hard I tried I had to watch in agony as the cancer slowly took away my beautifully wife, soul mate and best friend. I am now left as a widower and single parent trying to come to terms with the what happened through the 3.5 years since diagnoses and now life without her.
I will love her forever x