The life of a young widowed father with the will to help others with advice and positivity.

My Simple rules of life


Just a couple of simple rules of how I live my and why.

Rule 1 = Just be Happy

During the last few weeks of my wife’s life we had many very deep conversations. But there has always been something she said to me that stood out above all the rest. And that was when she said plain and simply that she wanted me to be happy. Such a simple thing to say but she said it in way that she really did mean it and on reflection that’s what any of us wish for isn’t it? When I put myself in Helen’s shoes which I often do this is exactly what I would want for Helen, my kids, my family and friends. I honestly can’t think of any other way to be apart from Just be happy.

Rule 2 = Live the best life I can live

I live with another simple rule to get me through. My wife fought hard to stay with us and to remain happy but sadly she lost her life. I know very well how annoyed she would be if the illness that took her life away continued to affect the lives of her loved ones. So the rule is simply to live the best life I can for me and my kids. My wife deserves it.

This is how I live my life now. I do it if it makes me and my kids happy.


6 comments on “My Simple rules of life

  1. Tonya del Rosario says:

    Love this, ‘if the illness that took her life away continued to affect the lives of her loved ones’. I’m just over 4 weeks out from losing the love of my life to a hard-fought battle with cancer. I think my girls and I are doing okay, but it does take a conscious effort to focus on the good/joy right now versus the sadness. I like your perspective and that one idea really resonated with me. We cannot let cancer continue to negatively impact us. We must choose to be happy, and make Glen proud of the way we are living our lives in his memory. Thank you for your posts.

    • Michael Adams says:

      So Sorry for your loss. It took me a few month after my wife passed away to think like this but it really has helped me. All the best x

  2. I am so sorry for your loss your wife was very beautiful. You have two beautiful children and your wife i’m sure would be so proud. I lost my husband to cancer Feb. 15 2014 My children are all grown up but still feel the effect of losing their Dad has been very hard on them. I have been so sad and lonely without my husband of 21 years he was also sick for three years. I miss him so much I went back to work and just take it one day at a time. I still have very dark days but my grandchildren put a smile on my face when I see them. Cancer is a horrible disease I watched like you my husband wither away to nothing. One year anniversary next month since he has been gone. Your story and your attitude has given me hope that someday I will be happy again. Thank you for sharing your story it has helped me so much. I appreciate you being so open about cancer. You have said many things than hit close to my heart. Take care of yourself and your beautiful children. God bless

  3. Dee Prosser says:

    If you have helped my son in anyway with dealing with the loss of his much love wife and mother then you have help me. Thank you. Happiness brings happiness.
    From a loving mum and nanna

  4. Chantal says:

    I admire this site and the time it took to put together. I wish I could do something like this. I am trying to find ways to honour my grief and my late husband. I am struggling with in laws you seem like you don’t or didn’t have such challenges. They do not make me feel happy as they are quite insulting and disrespectful towards me but they want me to bring my daughter to them all the time and I don’t want her exposed to them to be honest they are quite manipulative

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